Liz recently emailed me this picture that describes some wedding averages. It came out in 2010 after the Royal Wedding to illustrate the cost of an average American wedding. My frist thought was, “WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE WHO HAVE AVERAGE WEDDINGS LIKE THIS?” Of course, because it is an average, that means that many people have weddings that cost less than this… and also that many people have weddings that cost more than this.
Sadly, what I have found as I have been planning our wedding is that the price can get out of hand even if you are doing everything possible to keep it down. Why? Because of the world’s most expensive adjective: wedding. Fancy party cake – 100$. Wedding cake – 600$. Couple hour photo shoot – 1000$. Wedding photos – 3000$ +. Getting your hair done – 30$. Wedding hair – 80$. Yes, you can cut back on some things. But other things, like feeding people and putting them all in one spot can be expensive no matter what.
And yet, looking at this diagram also made me overwhelmed with appreciation for the people who are enabling James and I get married for WAY under the “average.” James’ mother is making our cake, and I have eaten enough of her cooking to know that it will not only be beautiful, but amazing. I have an army of the most talented bridesmaids anyone could ask for. One of them is designing and orchestrating the printing of all of our save the dates, invites, programs, fans, etc. Another took our engagement photos, and serves as my multi-purpose wedding planner. Talented friends from college are doing our ceremony music and a longtime friend is not only acting as dj at the reception, but is also camping out at the outdoor venue the night before so that no one ruins our decorations. Looking at this diagram makes me experience afresh waves of gratitude that the community that has been a part of our lives, will be a part of our wedding day.